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I Got Lost on Purpose

I missed my usual turn one Tuesday and discovered my neighbourhood is bigger than my daily route.

One Tuesday, I missed my usual turn coming back from the MRT station. Not on purpose. I was replying to a message and walked straight past the shortcut I always take near Telok Blangah Road. By the time I looked up, nothing was familiar. Which is absurd, because I was ~4 minutes from my flat on an island you can drive across in forty.

Instead of pulling up Maps, I kept walking. Curiosity, mostly. Also, mild embarrassment at needing GPS to navigate my own neighbourhood.

That's when the experiment started.

I turned left where I'd normally go right. Walked behind a row of HDB blocks I'd only ever seen from the front. Found a path I didn't know existed — one of those park connectors that threads between buildings like someone designed the estate and then whispered "but what if there was also a secret garden route." It opened up into a view of the ridge I'd only ever seen from Henderson Waves. Same ridge. Completely different angle.

There was an old uncle on a bench, feeding pigeons with the calm authority of a man who has been doing this longer than I've been alive. He nodded at me. I nodded back. A whole conversation in half a second.

I got back to my flat ten minutes later than usual. I could not tell you a single thing about the message I'd been replying to. But I can still describe that view of the ridge.

So I started doing it on purpose. Small detours. Nothing dramatic. Just: what if I don't take the route I always take?

Wednesday, I walked one block further before turning. Found a provision shop I'd never seen. Thursday, I took the long way around to the kopitiam and discovered an entire street of old shophouses I'd somehow been parallel to for a year without ever actually walking down.

The thing about unfamiliar routes — even two streets over — is they turn your commute back into a place. You look up. You notice. That enormous rain tree on the corner that's been there for decades and you've never once actually stood underneath and thought: this thing is magnificent. The temple you've seen from the bus a hundred times but never from the other side, where there's a courtyard and someone's left oranges on a ledge and it smells like incense and something sweet.

I've been doing the wrong-turn thing for a few months now. My rules are simple: at least once a week, take a route I've never taken. No phone navigation. If I end up somewhere weird, good. If I loop back to somewhere familiar, also good.

Last week I discovered a coffee shop that also happens to make some amazing pancakes. It's eight minutes from my front door. I've lived in this neighborhood for years.

Turns out I don't need to get lost in a new city. I haven't finished finding this one yet.

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